Urgent: Sex Ed Information Architects Needed. Update: You're Hired!

this is a real - not real - job

Sex Ed Information Architect (Unpaid, Underqualified, Unstoppable)

Here’s the deal:
The position of Sex Ed Information Architect does not come with a salary; there is no actual training or qualifications — other than caring about your child’s well-being and being willing to give it a go.

Yet here we are—volunteering for the job—because we do not want to involuntarily outsource our kids’ understanding of bodies, safety, and relationships to social media, peers, AI, or a school system that might skip the topic entirely.

We do it because we want our children to:

• Have truthful, holistic information (not just the viral version).

• Have trusted, honest resources (that’s you, by the way).

• Build a better world based on respect, dignity, and equality

…Are you with me?

Photo by Jake Nackos on Unsplash

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Healthy Information Environments Start at Home

Hi Friends ~ I’m Tara—Montessori teacher of 20 years, mom of three (twins, 6, and a 12-year-old), and accidental sex educator of 10 years. In my humble opinion, sex ed is one of the most important topics your child needs to learn. ¹

When my husband and I imagined parenting, we pictured swimming lessons and ice cream messes. Neither of us added “Explain porn algorithms to preteens” to our parenting vision board.

Yet here I am, holding job titles like:

• Family CEO (Chief Emotional Officer)

• Vomit Cleaner Emeritus (retired from Poo Duty)

• 24/7 Sex Ed Hotline (“Mom, what’s a blow job?” asked at 7:45 AM over cereal)

• Sex Ed Information Architect (unpaid, underqualified, utterly essential)

You might not want this job. But like it or not:
Your child will learn about sex. The question is: From whom?

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Let’s Play: Where Did You Learn That?

• Social media: A flea market of half-truths, shock takes, and rabbit holes. (Pass.)

• Schools: Can be outdated, not entirely accurate, or missing entirely. (Sometimes teachers are sufficient, but even the best programs can’t be tailored to your family, your child’s unique pace, prior knowledge, or experiential context.)

• Religious communities: Strong on values, light on “what is an STD?” (Sigh.)

• AI: Great for executive functioning help on a long-term project, but terrible at giving hugs during uncomfortable silences. (Nah, not the best.)

The internet gets an F- in sex ed. But you? You’re the A+ alternative.

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Your Promotion: Sex Ed Information Architect

Effective immediately. No algorithm can replace you.

You were MADE for this role!

1. Claim Your Role as Primary Source

• Say: “Ask me first—I’ll never judge, and you will NEVER be in trouble”

• Mean it when you say: “No question is too weird.” (Even the 7:45 AM ones.)

2. Normalize Tiny Talks

• Montessori trick: Observe, then step in.

  • Overheard something? “Hmm, let’s learn about that ~ together.”

  • Are we upholding stereotypes? “Let’s have a family talk about roles, dynamics, and relationships.”

3. Build Trust Through Consistency

• Every opportunity to build security accumulates

  • Small moments of connection add up “I can only imagine how devastating it is that she had the same lip gloss. I’m here to listen.” Form trust & bonds with small moments; you’ll be grateful during the big moments.

4. Curate Their Inputs

• Follow reputable resources. Review together.

• Add recommended books to your bookshelf. Don’t panic if they read them. Read them together.

4. Name Gaps in Understanding

• “My school never taught me about gender identity—I’m trying to learn. Maybe you can help me.”

• “Some people think periods are gross. We do NOT. Let’s talk about people who menstruate and how to support them.”

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The Ripple Effect

Imagine a world where kids grow up with:

• Your voice in their heads, not a thirst-trapping influencer.

• Critical thinking skills, instead of silence or shame.

• You as their go-to — Google is for wimps

That world starts at your kitchen table, car rides, and bedtime chats. Healthy info environments don’t happen by accident. They’re built—one NBD Convo, one corrected myth, one “can we have a little talk?” at a time.

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Your Turn: How did you learn about various sex ed topics? Feel free to leave a comment—I read every note.

Thanks for being here.

✨ Tara

1. ok, learning to read is also important.